Meet my alter ego, Oscarita. She is the exact opposite of a mindful parent!
Oscarita is hot-headed and not afraid to tell it like it is. She will get in your face one second and cook you a delicious meal the next. While you are eating, she will make you feel guilty for upsetting her and “making” her get up in your grill.
Her passion for her family runs deep and her cra-cra behaviors feel justified, especially when proving a point to her husband or teaching her children a lesson.
Oscarita is the epitome of Mindless Reactions. Although she strives to be a mindful parent, she is easily hijacked by her emotions and focuses more on getting respect than giving it.
She is focused on what “should” be rather than what is and uses yelling, fast-talking, berating, and guilt in the name of PEACE to squash unacceptable, contradictory, and even slightly annoying behaviors in her home.
Thankfully, I have learned how to tame Oscarita. She has learned how to be the mindful parent she wanted to be!
I have also realized the unconscious cycle that was perpetuating Oscarita’s Mindless Reactions.
Now I know how to move Oscarita from Mindless Reaction to Mindful-Ish Actions, so I can be the mindful parent I was meant to be. This is a major focus of my program Your Roadmap to Mindful-Ish Parenting.
You may have noticed the word Mindful-Ish. Mindful-Ish Parenting is being a mindful parent to some extent.
When Oscarita used to hear mindful, conscious, or aware in the same sentence as parenting, she felt intimidated. She did not feel successful co-parenting with her ex-husband, and she sometimes questioned her own behavior in discipline situations. She thought mindful parenting was not practical for her life and she saw it as an ideal that she could not achieve.
That is why I, Coach Franny, decided to thoroughly understand what being a mindful parent is and is NOT. There are a lot of misconceptions!
A big misconception about mindful parenting is that you must be calm and respectful all the time. Working towards anything 100% of the time is B.S., especially being mindful – unless you are Mr. Miyagi and can catch flies with chopsticks.
Striving to be a mindful parent, even to some extent, will get you amazing results. When it comes to being a mindful parent, something is better than nothing, and we can all do something!
I also learned you only need to do one simple thing to move from Mindless Reactions to Mindful-Ish Actions. I reveal what that one thing is in my signature parent coaching and mentoring program Your Roadmap to Mindful-Ish Parenting.
I empower parents and teachers to feel calm, capable, and confident so that they can problem-solve and create new possibilities with their children.
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Which chakras do you need to balance to be a more mindful parent?