Who is the parent you are meant to be?
How did you imagine yourself as a parent before you became one?
What was on your list of “I will never do” and “I will always be like”?
How has that worked out for you so far? Are you experiencing the parenting bliss your earlier self had imagined? Do your children follow your lead as you hoped they would before you entered the parenting abyss?
Now that you’re in the throes of everyday parenting have you ever thought?:
Only to find yourself screaming your head off and losing your cookies with your arm hairs standing straight up by 7 a.m.?!?!?! (Hello – been there. Done that!)
Many parents have an awareness of the parenting behaviors that they would like to change, yet they feel helpless to make the change happen. I know why!
Our body comes equipped with an adaptive cruise control system called the Autonomic Nervous System. Within this system, there is an accelerator called the Sympathetic Nervous System and a brake called the Parasympathetic Nervous System. Because we have such a fast-paced society, we process too many things through our accelerators. It is time to reclaim the health of our natural brake systems and make sure our brake lines (the Vagus nerve) have a good tone so that we can Stop-Breathe-Think at will.
When I was a little girl and my mother saw me getting agitated, she would say, “Cool it,” and my father would yell, “CALM DOWN. You’re acting like a perfect ass (insert Cuban accent).” In my mind, these two directives eventually combined into one phrase, “Cool Your Ass Down,” and that eventually morphed into “Cool Your Ass.”
Apparently, “Cool Yo Ass” is a phrase that can be found in the Urban Dictionary, and guess what it means:
To tell an individual, or group of persons, to ‘be cool,’ to ‘calm down’ and/or ‘step back from the situation.’
Furthermore, the action of “Cooling Yo Ass” means:
To remain totally cool, calm, and collected and basically brush the dirt off your shoulder like it ain’t no thang.
Who knew my parents were onto something! LOL!
Now I’m going to explain how we are going to use the phrase “Cool Yo Ass” to help us with Mindful-ish Parenting.
First, we are going to turn the word ass into an acronym ASS which stands for:
Next, let’s remember what these systems represent in our bodies:
So from now on, when you want to change your unwanted parenting behaviors, remember to Cool Yo ASS!
I have created a Mindful-Ish Parenting Breathwork Boot Camp Masterclass and Challenge so that parents who are ready to be the parent they always knew they wanted to be can finally do so.
I will teach you how to become aware of how your body’s adaptive cruise control system reacts to stimuli, bypass your accelerator (when appropriate) and make sure your brake system is in proper working order so you can Stop-Breathe-Think at will.
When you practice Cooling Yo ASS, you increase your self-regulation and resiliency so that you can brush off parenting upsets like it ain’t no thang and experience more parenting bliss!
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