Mindful-ish parenting tips for staying calm

Staying cool, calm, and collected protects your relationship with your children and helps you to deal with challenging situations. Still, it can be difficult to keep your cool around the clock. That’s especially true with the additional pressures we are facing since the pandemic. 

As a mindful-ish parent, how can you remain cool, calm, and collected when your child refuses to attend online school or throws a hissy fit in Target? How about when they start hanging out with a crowd (in person or online) you find questionable or maybe even downright scary?

Your family life can be more peaceful and cooperative. Try these mindful-ish parenting tips for staying cool, calm, and collected with your children.

Mindful-Ish Prevention Strategies:

1. Consider the reasons. Do you assume that your child is trying to upset or undermine you? In reality, they may be too young to think through any complicated actions. Even older children may be more preoccupied with dealing with their own issues rather than opposing you.

2. Set expectations. Many power struggles can be avoided by setting expectations in advance. For example, agree to a family technology contract instead of arguing about phone calls during each meal. Or create a social story with your young child that depicts a successful morning. 

3. Step away. Take a break if you feel like you’re becoming frustrated. Breathe deeply, put yourself in timeout for a few minutes or go for a walk around the block if possible. You’ll be less likely to lose it.

Mindful-Ish Communication Strategies:

1. Lower your voice. Your child is more likely to listen if you speak softly. Keep your tone assertive and voice at a level two. 

2. Validate and empathize. Try to see the situation from your child’s perspective even when you disagree. This helps them feel understood. 

3. Paint a picture. Use clear language that gives your child usable information. Instead of saying, “Be nice to your brother,” try saying, “Ask your brother for a turn. Try that now for practice.” 

Mindful-Ish Continuation Strategies:

1. Strengthen bonds. It will be easier to handle mishaps if you have a strong and close relationship. Spend time with your kids one-on-one and as a family. Share their interests and pay attention to what they have to say.

2. Practice self-care. You’ll also feel more stable when you eat healthy, work out, and sleep well. Ensure that your children are getting adequate sleep too.

3. Seek support. A parenting coach can provide additional insight and coping strategies if you’re struggling with staying calm with your children. 

Your kids will still push your buttons – that is their job. However, skillful planning and communication can minimize conflicts and help you to collaborate with your child during stressful times. Mindful-Ish parenting is easier and more effective when you can stay cool, calm, and collected.

If you need additional insight and coping strategies for staying calm with your children – book a free discovery call with me.